Five on Friday

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We’re a household of germs and lurgies this morning. I’ve lost my voice (and feel as if I’ve lost all muscles from my entire body, the amount of work it seems to walk up the stairs), the sproglet has a level of grouchiness that is usually associated with some form of illness, and the hubby is off work with a vomiting bug. Only the littlest has escaped, and remains cheerful, bumbling around the house singing songs to us and occasionally stopping to tell me, with a huge grin on his face, “I grumpy, Mummy, I so grumpy”…


So I’m writing this, curled up on the sofa under a blanket, PJs still on and a roll of loo paper by my side for the constant nose wiping. Actually, if I’m making this all sound miserable, it’s really quite pleasant. The sprogs have just gone off to nursery and the hubby is now having a sleep upstairs and I have that rare moment of quiet and peace in the house, with the companionship of knowing someone else is in.


Apart from all the bugs, work has been on my mind almost constantly this week. Work, or rather, the lack thereof. The sproglet turns four in just over month, marking four years in which I haven’t really done anything that could reasonably be called working. The lack of money, not to mention the lack of identity, has been grating on me these past months. When we applied for additional borrowing on our mortgage for our imminent house move, we were told that we could be lent more if I was taken off the mortgage, and it was in my husband’s name only. We’ve had to do so, house prices round us being so crazy that we couldn’t afford to move otherwise, but it was a real dent to my sense of being an independent, functioning, valuable member of society. And a feminist. Anyway, I could rant for hours about all this (and have done to numerous friends over the past few weeks) but the short result is that it’s made me really want to step up my plans for my own company and push ahead a little faster than I had originally thought.


Luckily, two lovely family members have agreed to hire me to mastermind garden overhauls. I registered my own company last year, but have only done a few (very) small jobs since then, but now I’m ready to crack on with something a bit bigger. For my sister, I’m drawing up a planting plan to bring some colour into her garden (at the moment, she has huge swathes of grass and privet hedging, but not much flora). And my Mum has commissioned me to completely re-design her entire plot, which will be exciting, albeit a challenging task. I’m off to my Mum’s house at the weekend, to carry out a site survey and discuss initial plans with her. Garden design company is go!


Though political, I really hate to discuss politics normally (I’ve spent too many evenings, pressed back against a wall in a gloomy pub with some half-inebriated uni friend aggressively shouting their beliefs at me for hours, oblivious to the fact I’ve said, six hundred times already, that I completely agree with them…) But next week, of course, is a pretty big deal, so I feel compelled to mention that I am, naturally, voting to stay in Europe, for all the reasons that everyone else has said before. The thought of leaving is pretty terrifying to me, but I remain hopeful that, on the day, a general sense of inclusiveness being better than alienation will win out. This time next week, we’ll know for sure.

Joining in with Amy and Five on Friday

11 thoughts on “Five on Friday

  1. Hi Sabrina. I am not sure why I never stumbled across your blog before but I’ll be sure to come back, I like it here (having done a bit of reconnaissance reading). I hope the bugs will not spoil your weekend ahead. I am totally with you, I feel work is part of my identify it brings me great satisfaction to contribute to our family life not only emotionally, and as general minion, but also financially. Having said that, my career is not a career and I work for my husband…. I hope your garden design business takes off, it sounds creative and fun. I am one of many European migrants who are pondering their potential future in a country that we call home. I can’t vote of course but hope for the voice of reason to prevail. Christina x

  2. I hope you feel better soon. Sorry you’re feeling so down on yourself. You may not be doing paid work but raising children is one of the hardest jobs in the world and you will be rewarded in other ways by doing it. I was a stay-at-home mum for many years – though I did work part time throughout – and although my self confidence did take a little hit I wouldn’t change things. Things were tough financially too. People always said we were lucky I could stay home. It wasn’t all luck! It wasn’t easy and we had to make sacrifices, but it was worth it.

    The garden design sounds wonderful – something that can make some money and help your self confidence. I hope it grows (the business and the gardens!)

    Have a great weekend

  3. Get well soon, it’s so tiring being ill when you have children. Perhaps the fresh air indued by the garden planning will help. 🙂

  4. Sorry to hear you are icky, I hope that you are much better again very soon. Take care of yourself in the meantime. How good that you have some business for your garden design business, from little things great things can come! Thank you for joining Five On Friday, hope you have a great weekend!

  5. So glad you can find some good moments in the midst of grumpy sickies in your home. Hope everyone is better soon. WE sure can use some garden design. It’s great that you have that talent. Have a wonderful weekend.

  6. Sorry about the germs, I do hope everyone is back to full strength very soon. I’m thrilled for you that your garden design business is up and running, and I’m wishing you the very best success. I shall look forward to hearing about and seeing your progress. Also voting to stay, partly for environmental reasons, which haven’t been mentioned as much as other reasons. Wishing you and yours a lovely weekend. CJ xx

  7. I’m here to give you a virtual hug – I’m all heart aren’t I knowing I can’t get any of your bugs ha ha?! Here’s to feeling better, starting your business and what I think should be one of your KPI’s earn enough to have the second house in your name – one each now that’s fair isn’t it?!!!
    Wren x

  8. Sorry you’ve all been ill, that’s so draining when everyone come down with something. That’s terrible that they made you take your name off the title. I didn’t work until our daughter was in school, but I was the household manager, I paid all the bills, managed the bank accounts, paid the taxes, etc, so I felt that I more than contributed.

  9. Wishing you and yours well from One Saylor’s Log across the pond near Portland, Oregon. I found you through Amy’s Link Up and wish that I could afford to hire you to plan my garden. I have visions of a fluffy English country garden full of colors and textures with fragrances that delight. Should you visit my blog you will see the dreadful challenge I have and be glad I can’t afford to hire you 🙂

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